Reflections from ALF Summer 2016 (Week 2)

The second week of ALF Summer was so much fun! I got to meet some new facilitators who were not there the first week, and we got a whole bunch of kids for the camp. I was looking forward to week two for two main reasons: to see how facilitators interact with the kids, and to see how my own kids would be in an ALC environment.

Outside of my kids just being at home with me (ages seven, five, and three years), they have only known Sudbury. My oldest, Elena, was at Sudbury for two years. Jack, my middle child, was there for one year. Elena was pretty well versed in how Sudbury operated and I believe she attended School Meeting fairly consistently. The culture at this Sudbury school was one where most of the time the kids spent on electronics, because not much else was going on. Staff were supposed to be present and willing to help or engage the kids, but not initiate such interactions. Since we were lacking older kids, the environment was lacking.

This was actually one of the first things that interested me in ALCs – the energy, variety of activity, and relationships between the facilitators and kids. We visited Mosaic in February and were only there for one day, but I immediately knew this was something completely different than we had back home. Many of the fundamental elements were similar, but the results were starkly different – something not easily articulated, but something easily felt. I had subbed at Sudbury a few times, and it was enough for me to realize that something was off. The way the model was in practice, at least for Atlanta, did not quite work. Seeing Mosaic, and watching Nancy (I didn’t have much time with Jess or Charlotte that trip) was eye-opening. I realized the importance of having a facilitator/staff who was awesome in that role and who chose that position because it is what they want to do. One of the problems Sudbury seemed to have was that some staff were in that role by default, because others did not want to do it, or would not do it for free/low wages. So with the lack of engaged staff, the emphasis on keeping parents out, and with the lack of older children, the kids at Sudbury would just default into their habit of playing on electronics for a great amount of time.

We also saw how that governance structure quickly made kids, even at the young ages of seven and eight, into us adults – they devolved, just as us adults did, into arguing the legalities of bylaws and policies and procedures, and the validity of meetings – rather than focusing on what the other person was trying to say or express. The focus was much more on the adherence to the structures, and practically none on the people or relationships. For me, ALCs were well formed and defined, something we could move towards. I had spent a lot of time defending Sudbury, mostly because I felt like people were trying to chip away at it, without a clear picture of what we were moving towards. Doing that felt uncomfortable, because I had no idea of what we might end up with. After reading the starter kit, ALCs seemed like something we could build towards and we would all know what it was we wanted to achieve.

So for my own kids, I was really looking forward to week two of camp, because it was serving as sort of a test run to see how my kids would adapt. For Elena, she adapted quite well. She is a very social, energetic, outgoing person, so she loved all of the people and activities going on. She even commented one night after dinner, about all of things we would need to start doing at our new school – she said we would need spawn points, small boards, sharing, and a big board for set-the-week. She did talk about needing a rule for something she encountered at Mosaic, so the language is probably something that will take a little longer to change. For Jack, I was really wondering how he would do. We have had some unique challenges with him, so I really was curious to see how he would do with meetings. I have to say that I was actually pleasantly surprised – by mid-week he knew where his spawn point was and could go there on his own without me needing to walk him there to make sure he went in and stayed in the room. As far as I know, he sat through the morning and afternoon spawn points and participated in them by sharing his daily intentions and reflections. He also was fairly vocal about getting freeze tag up on the board at the daily set-the-day meeting. Jack even walked up to show what time he wanted to play tag during a set-the-day meeting. Even Peanut, at the age of three, did pretty well for attending meetings. I was curious how the younger ones would do during the meetings, but they actually participated for the most part, or would be crawling all over a facilitator (in a somewhat quiet manner). It was actually really great to see a mix of ages in the spawn points, since our location will have mixed ages from the start. I was able to see that it can work, and the kids adapt pretty quickly to a new environment and new rhythm to their day.

I also tried to back away from my kids, to allow them the space to experience things without me constantly being there. This was especially an exercise for Jack and Peanut. Peanut did well finding things to do without me being there making suggestions for her. Jack did ok I suppose, but his default still seems to be playing on his tablet. He seems to need or want someone to show him what he can be doing, which is challenging. I still have minimal concerns about his ability to transition into other activities once he is on an electronic device, and I would love to hear more from others on this topic. I know he wants to do other things, and is sad or upset when he misses certain activities, but he cannot seem to pull himself away from an electronic long enough to actually think for a moment and make an informed decision. So I am not sure what to do about that … or if there is anything I could or should do, or if I should just do nothing.

For myself, this second week has barely any notes (unlike my first week). I went to just two discussions: one on marketing and one on a student exchange program among the ALCs. Instead I spent my time joining in on games, which was awesome. I already like playing all kinds of games, so I loved having the opportunity to play games with so many people of all ages. I had not played capture the flag since I was a kid, so it was great to start off the camp week with that as the opener. We had a lot of people playing, and it was great to see kids and facilitators organize it at the start, and then realize that we needed to alter the rules a bit to make things work better for everyone and to enable the game to actually have an end. At the end of that first day I watched Werewolves played for the first time, and it looked like lots of fun. Elena also watched, since she did not know how to play. We both looked forward to joining the game the next time we could.

On Wednesday both Elena and I played Werewolves for the first time, and it was great! We had over twenty people join that game, and we had to cut it short because it could not be finished within the hour slot. We plan to introduce games like this to everyone at our school, so that they can have fun with us too. Resistance was another game we played later in the week, and it is awesome too.

I played tag outside a few times – freeze and perpetual. Jack was very fixated on playing freeze tag every day, and was sad when it did not happen, mostly due to not enough people to play. But he did enjoy learning how to play perpetual tag from Liam, so now we can mix it up a bit. Peanut finally got to play hide and seek, which we combined with tag at the park. Elena’s other favorite activity of the week was learning to skateboard. She has talked about wanting to try it for a while, and this was her first opportunity to even try getting on a board. And so now she wants to buy one, so we will be looking into that for her.

I only attended two adult talks during this second week, because I wanted to watch and learn as much as I could from the experienced facilitators. This is what I needed, to help me see how things are in practice. And there are several scenarios that stand out for me:

  • Nari doing very well talking with the kids during a pillow fight session when some smaller kids were being hurt – she focused on explaining the consent aspect to them;
  • Lacey’s awesome respect for children of all ages, and ensuring they have space to talk about what is going on or what is upsetting them – particularly seeing her ask Peanut if she wanted to say anything about the situation when she was hurt during the pillow fight – she really allows the kids to have their own voice, so that adults do not talk for them or just take over the situation;
  • hearing facilitators like Bear and Jess (just the ones that stand out at the moment) talking very honestly with kids and clearly expressing how they are feeling;
  • seeing Amber with the kids, and being very patient walking Peanut back and forth one day when Peanut was wanting me – Amber reminded me again, that adults can be honest with kids;
  • seeing Jess handle some real conflict between two of the campers when I had no idea what to do about what I had just seen;
  • seeing Ryan and Heath playing so much with the little ones, like Peanut and Elle especially – it was great to see them being so playful and patient with the small kids, and it was also to see the small kids get comfortable so quickly with brand new people while being in a brand new environment, in a brand new routine;
  • seeing Rebekah facilitate with the younger kids in a variety of activities – I know they must have had a blast;
  • Liam’s calmness – this actually more related to the first week, but carried into the second week – his relaxed nature was often very comforting when a lot of other things going on seemed chaotic and loud, so I really appreciated him;
  • Abby, during the first week – she very naturally could listen to the adults in the room, seemed to really think and process what they were saying, and then respond in a thoughtful manner – she really facilitated the adult discussions in some great, awesome ways that are somewhat hard to put into words, and her presence and personality had a comforting and calming effect for me (I would love to see her with kids!);
  • Drew, during the first week, telling us that we do not have to do something just because someone tells us to, that it is ok to be introverted and uncomfortable.

What stands out for me from all these moments (and the ones I cannot think of at this moment) are these qualities: honesty, trust, respect, patience, self-awareness, reflection, individuality, diversity, collaboration, coordination, empowerment, expression, understanding, energy, enthusiasm, confidence, security, flexibility, adaptability, agility, compassion, challenge, growth, learning, community, listening, hearing, watching, seeing, connecting, playing, fun, encouraging, intentionality, thinking.

As I said and put on a sticky note at the end of my last day – I had to see it to understand it. I had to see ALC soil, roots, branches, and leaves in practice to truly get it. Just reading about it all in the starter kit, and seeing it for just one day at Mosaic, is nothing compared to experiencing it, being immersed in it, and seeing people actually living it. I still feel like there is so much more to learn and experience, so I hate not being there for the third and final week. It seems like we have only been introduced to all of these things, and now we will begin to implement them at our own school. Which seems somewhat scary, crazy, and exciting all at the same time. I just look forward to getting to know everyone more as our group here in Atlanta continues our adventure!

6 thoughts on “Reflections from ALF Summer 2016 (Week 2)”

  1. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 Love love love love love <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

    I look forward to maintaining connection and communication with all of you. I hope we continually upgrade and evolve our schools and inspire each other. I'm so thankful you came for ALF Summer, I find experience is such an incredible way to learn.

    1. Nancy, I absolutely agree! The experience was fantastic, and I look forward to seeing everyone again. I really hate missing the third week too. I feel like I was just starting to get a little more comfortable, and then I had to go home.

      And since Charlotte and Atlanta aren’t that far, we look forward to our two school coordinating trips together, or arranging visits between the two!

  2. Rachel, Thank you for this beautiful narration of our camp week! I am so grateful for all the details you have noticed and documented.

    I was really happy to get time to connect with your kiddos through the week! Especially by the last couple days I felt like I got some fun connection with each of them 🙂

    I would really enjoy talking more about the screen/device thing with you. I am currently in a place of finding and trusting my inner guidance on this. It feels good to let go of any right/wrong judgement from either “side” and joyfully follow my bliss.

  3. I’m excited to come down and work with you in Atlanta this fall!

    In regards to screen time and escaping the gravity of video games I would suggest trying to bring intentionality into the play. Try and set some intentions to the play, are you going to learn a new move, beat a level or boss, build something, etc. Having a goal typically means there is an end or break once the intention in completed.

    Abe has a wonderful seirse about mineful minecraft where he plays very intentionally. (you on find episode one at the bottom on the left above the comments)

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